Change Your Mind; Change Your World!

Editing your thoughts sounds like something only an editor of twenty years would come up with. But, trust me, even one of the apostles said to “take every thought into cavity.” By that, I believe the apostle Paul knew that your thoughts deeply effect what transpires in your daily life.

I come from a family of six children. My brother and I are as diverse as an apple is from an orange. We both were brought up by the same parents, shared the same room, and even went to some of the same schools. Yet, he turned to drugs and alcohol very early in life and was in jail the first time at eighteen. I often think, what made the difference in us?

I believe it was our thought process. I had a winning belief system because of an older married couple who lived next door. He had a gang of bad boys consistently goading him to do more and more detrimental behavior and a mean and angry father.

Mary and Emil Krovich took me in like I was a son. They couldn’t have children of their own, but they loved me like I was theirs. As I write this, tears fill my eyes just thinking about the amount of love that came from Mary, especially. She would wait by her side door, which was right across from our front door, until I came home. I’d see her peek out from the door, so none of the other children would see. Her small, chubby finger would curl up to indicate that she wanted me to come and visit. I’d throw down my book bag and run over to her house almost every day, especially after my mother left my father, eagerly waiting for some amazing treat she would have made me.

She was my salvation. She taught me to believe in myself. She helped me understand that what went on in my home was an anomaly, and that I was special, despite how I was treated. So, I kept up the school studies and made straight A’s, because I knew I wanted out from the line of pain that had befallen me.Mark, my brother, on the other hand, didn’t have any savior. He was an altar boy, and even God, he rejected, when the priests mistreated him.

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The Herald

The dictionary defines herald as a messenger bringing official news. Today I am your herald. I bring you the news that you are officially prosperous, wonderful, made in the image of perfection, and ready to step out on faith today to take the world by storm!

Now, if an official messenger, say CNN, said that the presidency had been officially won by a candidate, you would be apt to believe such news. What keeps your from believing the news that I bring for you personally?

I’ll tell you. We truly don’t believe we deserve the best of everything. We innately feel that there should be struggle to get our good. We should always strive for happiness. Joy is right outside of our reach, but unattainable.

We have not been taught by anyone that what we are and what we have been made of is God. If we have been made in the image and likeness of the Creator, we must be made of some amazingly awesome attributes! We must have power to create good. We must have wisdom. We must have unlimited prosperity. We must be whole and divine.

Have you ever considered that?

If you take your place as a child of the Creator, you take hold of the big “Who” you really are. He or she is someone that is much greater than a person who can barely make his/her rent, car payment, or feed the family. A Son or Daughter of God is unlimited in prosperity.

You may say, “Yes, but I am where I am, and I can’t change things.”

I’m not asking you to change the exterior, right now. I’m asking you to begin to think with unlimited thoughts. Don’t ask for small things or for just enough….

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Dust in the Wind

Dust in the Wind

 

One of the sayings that changed my life forever is from a book called  “What Happy People Know,” by Dr. Dan Baker. He quotes one of his dying patients who had struggling through a bout of cancer only to find another small growth: She says about the meaning of life:

 

“Every moment that’s ever been, or ever will be, is gone the instant it’s begun. So life is loss.  And the secret of happiness is to learn to love the moment more than you mourn the loss.”

 

Notice she doesn’t say, “But the secret of happiness…”

She says, “And the secret of happiness is…”

 

And the secret of happiness is to learn to love the moment more than you mourn the loss.”

 

The truth is we don’t know what today or tomorrow or even the next moment will bring to our lives. We don’t know if it will bring something wonderful or something tragic. But the secret to happiness is to learn to love the moment that you are in, more than the loss of it, whether good or bad.

 

This concept completely changed my way of thinking. I don’t get up in the morning thinking that I have to change the world. I get up in the morning knowing that every moment I am conscious of the present, I am changing the world because I am conscious.

 

Can you grasp the concept? It’s huge.

 

The songwriter wrote: “All we are is dust in the wind. Same old song. Just a drop of water in an endless sea. All we do crumbles to the ground though we refuse to see. Dust in the wind. All we are is dust in the wind.”

 

We can look at this song with a fatalistic, realistic point of view and get very sad. But when we see the truth in it, we recognize that we can’t stop change, growth or death. If this is the case, then why are we living in the past 90% of the time? Why are we not stepping forward into life 100% of the time with vitality and love and generosity and compassion? …

 

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Dealing with Frustration

One thing I know for sure is that we all suffer the same frustration when we have to call for help on any electronic or computer equipment.

The last time I had a computer outage, it took me a total of four hours of phone time, six phone calls, five of which were recapitulations of the same problem—going over the same several beginning steps—then finally to the second stage help that finally gave me the direction I needed to get back and running. Whew.

Who has four hours these days to be on the phone with tech support? Meanwhile, you’re trying to do all your computer work on a six-inch mobile phone that is not meant to do word processing and fulfill the needs of a computer. You get the picture.

What did Bo do yesterday in a time like this? Guess from the points below:

  1. You haven’t seen the right side of my head lately in photos. Half the hair is gone from pulling it out, one hair at a time.
  2. I haven’t had to get a mani/pedi lately, because I gnawed off all my nails, even the toenails…
  3. I haven’t been out lately because I broke out in hives from the anxiety.
  4. I read a book that I haven’t had time to read in a long time, while I was waiting.
  5. I take deep breaths and do yoga positions at computer while I put the phone on speaker.
  6. I put the phone on speaker and I continue on with my day as if this is just one more thing life brings me to understand humanity. (So, this may mean this bullet point includes the last two points.)

The answer is six, of course. Why should I, or you, let any thing like a computer take away my life source just because it’s broken? Yes, the computer holds the key to many of my business prospects and endeavors, but I can’t change what is. I can only deal with what is. In the present. In the moment. And with the care and diligence and compassion of a parent treating a child’s precious hurting need.

We are not here on this earth to play Russian roulette with ourselves every time something goes wrong in our lives. Think about it. How many times a day do you let your heart race because you didn’t make enough time to do all the chores on your list, you’re late to pick up a child, and caught in traffic. Now your heart is beating out of your chest. You’re losing precious life. You may have a heart attack if you keep this up. When the truth is, you can’t change what is.

You either need to learn to give more time for certain chores, take into account for busy traffic times, or get used to the stress that life can hand you. Put on some nice music, a book on tape you’ve been wanting to read, call the person who is waiting for you, and relax into the situation that you can’t change.

No amount of frustration can change the situation! Say that to yourself about 10 times. Take ten deep breaths, breathing in for 6 counts and out for 6 counts as you do this. (This will bring your blood pressure down and slow your heart rate.) Feel your toes in your shoes. Feel your shoes on your feet. Rub in the inside of one of your palms gently. (This changes the route of your neuro pathways and calms you.)

But by all means, take care of yourself. Stress is the number one killer in America today. I don’t want any more of my dear ones to die of a heart attack anytime soon.

Have a safe, peaceful and wonderful day.

 

 

 

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Boy, Did I make a big mistake!

My passion has been to write for a long time. Writing this blog has fulfilled a great deal of that passion. But, as you know, I’ve written a few novels, a couple nonfiction books, a cookbook, a vocal praxis, and ghost wrote a fitness book and a couple gift books too. 

 

Sometimes one needs to get paid for their passions to make a living. Singers love singing, painters love painting, writers love writing books, but the ultimate goal is to get the work of the beloved art into the hands of someone who will actually pay for what you love doing. Make no mistake about it, that is the goal for most artists. And that is not a bad goal at all.

 

I hope someday this blog can turn into another book for me. But tomorrow and the next day, I write without consequence or treating for that effect.

 

Today I discovered that my blog is camped out in a garage where it can’t go anywhere but there. It is by blogger’s standard a kind of misfit “quick blog template.” If it were to go radical and millions of people visit it, there would be no way to reap a return on my work. Why? Because of one small word: WordPress.

 

So, today I tried to wrap my mind around this little known fact and see how to change my blog to a WordPress Blog, which is why some of you, midday, haven’t been able to reach me like you normally do to have your daily fix (and thank you for that).

 

My blog, by today’s standards, is doing really well. This month it will have gotten about 100,000 hits. I believe that is the most I have ever gotten in a month. That’s pretty damn good. And most of you are responsible for spreading the word. Thank you again for your loving and wonderful support. You make me a happy man everyday when I read your comments and emails.

 

The problem today happened when my host company, GoDaddy, told me that they didn’t support WordPress, and that I had to start a new account with WordPress, and basically start from square one, redesigning, and republishing every post I have ever written. This would mean having to copy 550 posts one by one into this new blog.

 

I really wasn’t up for the task. I believed there had to be an easier way. There was a way to import from almost every where else that used blogs, but GoDaddy. Go figure.

 

So, I get half-way through the task of setting up the WordPress account and get stuck. I call GoDaddy and find out that, indeed, they do have a Blog support staff that is dedicated directly to WordPress. This was much to my dismay, since I had just spent $$$ on setting up a new WordPress account.

 

So, today this account has been jockeyed from one hub to another until it is now apparently stuck in cyber Netherland. I hear it could take up to 48 hours to come back to life. I’m not sure if I really should care. I can reach most of my readers in other ways: Facebook, Twitter, Linkedin, Stumbleupon, Google+, to name a few. This dude is hooked up and serious.

 

I say all this because I think that I may have made a big mistake. For now, I’m going to stay with Godaddy at blog2grow4spirit.com. Even if it switches to WordPress, the name will continue to be the same, but my .com address will not appear in your window. Just wanted to keep you updated.

Love to you all.

 

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Are You Listening?

I was a vegetarian for 22 years when my stomach started to rebel against my spiritual decision to not eat meat. I tried every doctor, every holistic way to treat my stomach, but even the holistic doctors said, “Bo, you really have to start to eat meat.”

 

What do you do when everything in your mind says no and everything in your physical body says yes?

 

The answer is: you listen to your body. Your body is like a baby crying in the middle of the night. You listen to see if the baby needs to be fed or if she’s just fussing. But you listen. If there is something drastically wrong, you will know by the crying or by the ways the baby functions or doesn’t function.

 

Your body speaks to you in nonverbal ways all the time. Your shoulders and neck ache when you have looked at the computer for too long. Your lower back growls at you when you have spent the day lifting heavy things to help your friend move. You get a headache when you have too much anxiety for one person to handle.

 

All these are signs that the body needs your attention. It needs you to stop what you are doing to it and rest. It needs for you to attend to the needs of the physical part of you. After all, the body is the house of your mind and spirit. It is an important part of your existence here on earth. Without it, you would be dead and useless to your family, friends, and the world.

 

So, I listened to my body after much struggle. I decided that despite my desire to not kill animals to survive, I would pray that my mind could wrap itself around the idea of eating something that had died for my life. I became thankful for the sacrifice of the animal, and began to try small pieces of meat. It took about two months before I became comfortable with eating meat, but I did adjust. I didn’t cook it or buy it for a long time, because that felt too close to the sacrifice, but I did listen to the advice of the doctors and practitioners and eat meat.

 

They were right. I immediately began to feel better and more vibrant. My stomach stopped feeling terrible all the time. I was very thankful, but at the same time a little confused with God. I thought my choice to be a vegetarian was a spiritual one. Apparently, God had a different lesson for me to learn—an even harder one.

 

I think this lesson prepared me for the biggest lesson of my life: GETTING OLDER. We think we can gracefully make our way into our elderly years, but the truth is, aches and pains and arthritis and disease sneak in to cramp our style right around 40-50. It’s no fun.  But if you’re not listening to your body, it’s even less fun.

 

I’ll give you the perfect example…

 

My yoga practice used to be very intense. Some would call it the hardest kind of yoga practice. But one day I just had to say to myself, “Bo, this just isn’t feeling good anymore. In fact, it feels pretty crappy.”

 

I had to completely modify the way I did my practice so that my body started to feel good after yoga. After all, isn’t that idea of yoga? A yoga practice isn’t about getting into the hardest pose. It’s about moving toward your most difficult position, and listening so you never harm yourself. If the most difficult position for you is standing there, then that is exactly what you should do. Yoga means the union of the mind, body, and spirit. There is no union there is if your body is screaming and your mind isn’t listening.

 

Take a lesson from this yogi and former vegetarian. I wish I could have it my way and be all the things I was when I was twenty. But the truth is, I simply can’t. I have to be who I can be within the parameters of my physical self. And if that means giving up something to survive, I should do it.

 

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