The Gong with a Valuable LIfe Lesson

The Gong with a Valuable Life Lesson

I just read my horoscope for today, which I don’t usually do. I have a horoscope app that I didn’t even realized I had. The app just peered up at me from my phone and said, “Read me!”

 

Alas, it read, “Someone with small fingers could be reaching into your pocketbook today. There is some toy or goodie they just ‘have’ to have, but it may be out of the realm of practicality in your current budget. There may be a valuable life-lesson here about money handling.”

 

Now, how did this horoscope writer know that small fingers reached into my pocketbook today to buy a very much-needed Tibetan Gong. Well, I don’t know that I needed it exactly, but I certainly could use it in my healing practice. It’s just that it was very expensive. Yes, I should have it. But I saw it. Loved it. And before I could blink my eyes, I was giving my credit card information on the computer to purchase it.

 

Was this Valentine’s Day pressure or what? So, this year I didn’t have a Valentine. I didn’t have anyone to spend a couple hundred dollars on, so I spent it on myself. How’s that for satisfying my hunger for intimacy? LOL. Oh my God, what is my life coming to? The gong just sounds so pretty and magical. It makes my entire body quiver. If a person can’t do that at this point, a gong might as well.

 

I don’t know if you have ever had a meditation with gongs and Tibetans bowls and singing crystal bowls before. But it is simply magical. It takes you physically and mentally to another plane. I have a friend, Karen Stevens, who does this kind of work in Nashville for a living. If you want her number, just ask. She’s very good. She’s studied under some of the best teachers in the US. She did a session on me a few weeks back and every cell of my body was vibrating and resonating when I left.

 

This makes me wonder what sound has to do with healing. I know that it transported me to another dimension completely. I immediately was taken from my body. I felt as if my brain and heart were given new vibratory, healing energy.

 

A few years back, I had a friend who was late for his child’s football game. He was at his home working late when he realized this. He knew that if he ran the back way through some fields behind his home that he could get to the game before half-time and catch most of the game without his son knowing he wasn’t there. So, he put on his running shoes and in the dark began on the mile long trek running.

 

What my friend didn’t know was that very week the property next to the football field had begun construction on a new building, and had dug a hole the size of large department store right in the path where he was running. Without knowing it was there and with no light to lead him, my friend fell directly into the hole. His head hit a rock and he immediately fell unconscious. Later he was told that when he was found he had been dead for a few minutes. He had to be revived a couple times.

 

When he shares his story about what happened when he was out of body, he tells the story of Angels and God sharing the story of how sound plays one of the most important roles to our development on earth. He says the reason we are all so drawn to music, is that vibrations of all sort play an important part in the healing and connection of our brain to spirit.

 

He draws graphs in his story about how the energy of sound is just above the energy of matter. He talks about the different keys and how each key in music is meant for specific kinds of healing.

 

You may be familiar with the Fibanocci theory in nature and now how it relates to sounds. If you are interested in looking at a YouTube about it: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZUWbeep9sC4 will give you some insight.

 

It is all rather interesting. There are many places on the Internet to Google sound and quantum physics and also the Fibonacci theory. If you want to take yourself to a place similar to looking up at majestic sky filled with countless stars, start investigating this intriguing new science and begin to imagine the possibility of this modality of healing and quantum physics.

 

Ok, I’ve convinced myself I made a good decision. Phooey on the horoscope. It clearly doesn’t know what an amazing God we have and a perfectly abundant universe this is.  Perhaps the life’s lesson it was talking about was: Don’t listen to stupid horoscopes.

 

 

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com.

 

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Avoidant Relationships and Sex

Avoidant Relationships and Sex

I know that I had promised to move through the book “Attached,” with you all chapter by chapter, but I have been remiss. I apologize. I keep the book in my nightstand. When I get a couple hours, I veraciously gobble down as much as I can.

 

The last couple chapters have been about issues with Anxiously Attached people mated with Avoidantly Attached people. How to make this kind of relationship work if you are already in one, seems to be a bit of a stretch for the person who is the Anxious one. I guess, because I am more toward anxiously attached, I am sincerely compassionate with those poor partners who endure the ever-annoying habits of the Avoidantly blind, almost narcissistic behavior.

 

Among many things that I found in the chapters that I read, one thing that stuck out like a daylily in a rose garden is: If a person is avoidant attached, which means that he or she is more attached to working hard, independence, doesn’t like to get too intimate, then this person may have some real issues in bed.

 

One thing that an anxiously attached person wants as well as a secure person is intimacy. Sexuality and intimacy go hand in hand. Sex should commence from a state of intimate behavior. For instance, romantic touching and caressing, may evolved to passionate kisses. Kisses may lead to rubbing each other’s bodies then genitals, which in turn could lead to passionate sex.

 

But for the avoidantly attached, the sexual part of a relationship is just one more chore or thing he/she must do to be a part of this relationship. He/she often resents having to take part and may avoid it completely. But if the avoidant is trying hard to overcome his/her issues, the avoidant may change character in the middle of the intimacy and simply take over, as if there is a chore to be taken care of and completed. There is a immediate disconnect that happens then with the intimacy. When orgasm is achieved with the avoidant, then this same avoidant person may cuddle up with his/her partner and resume normal behavior without even caring about satisfying the anxiously attached.

 

Now from the anxiously attached point of view this is like being led down a path of great emotion, then suddenly being blindfolded and raped, albeit with unconscious willingness to please your partner. After which, you clean up and end up in bed getting caressed. Then you convince yourself that all is well, because intimacy had actually happened to some degree.

 

The truth is that sexual intimacy had been bypassed by your avoidant partner completely. He/she must be called on the carpet or this kind of sexual behavior will go on forever like that. I promise you will never be satisfied with that part of your relationship. You may live with it, put up with it, and even accept it as his/her way of loving you, but it will never be real intimacy unless some real work is done to unhook from the inherent problem of intimacy.

 

As you can see, I love this book. If you haven’t read it yet, it is simply called “Attached,” by Levine and Heller. I highly recommend it to anyone who is either seeking relationship, because you want to avoid everything that you can, going into new relationships that can lesson the chance of being with the wrong person. Or if you are already in a relationship, it will help you make sense of many things that have gone wrong emotionally and sexually for so many years. It is my new relationship handbook.

 

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com.

 

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GP-PTSD—Getting Past Traumatic Stress Syndrome

I’m going to start a new acronym for PTSD. You heard me! GPTSD—Getting Past Traumatic Syndrome. It’s the place you land after years of therapy, years of spiritual search, years of recovery, years of hypnosis digging deep into your trauma, and finally landing into a place called PEACE and ACCEPTANCE OF YOURSELF.

I’m here to tell you there is a true place called GPTSD. It’s not my personal fantasy. I have helped many people find it. So, I know it’s not just my dream.

I grew up in a place that could be referred to as hell. I experienced things that I hope no one in my life would ever have to experience. I hope I experienced for you. I have gone through religion, drugs, breakup, fights with God, alcohol, 12-steps, and hypnotic Parts Therapy to find that a place called peace does exist if you work hard enough to find it.

Actually, the peace that we search for has always been there. We just have to remove all the blocks to the peace before we’re able to really get to who God created us to be. This is therapy. And I’m beginning to think that life is more about therapy than it is about anything else.

When I was tot just learning to walk, I used to think I was going to be a famous piano player and a singer. I spent hours taking long walks on the highway singing at the top of my lungs, which is why I have such a big and powerful voice now. Most people can’t believe such a strong voice can come out of such a small guy. But you try singing over an Interstate for 10 years, and you’ll understand how it happened.

I think I was only eight to ten years old when I started doing this, and I continued well into college. Only God knows why my parent wasn’t concerned. But, alas, I don’t believe he even noticed.  Then I wanted to be an optometrist. Then there was a long time I wanted to be a Broadway star. Fame was the goal.

Then it was movies and television. Then I found recording. Alas, I made it Nashville, where I started writing books, instead of recording albums; where I started teaching voice instead doing a lot of singing; where I ended up going to therapy to search for help, because I was trying to find something in my career I would never find—acceptance of myself! You see, when I was searching for a career, all I mostly found was rejection. There were some good moments of acknowledgment of my talents, but never enough to fill the huge, gaping void that was left by my childhood.

I remember the moment like it was yesterday when I realized I had taken the course of Fame vs. Finding my Authentic Self. I sang a song for over 10,000 people and received a standing ovation. It literally meant nothing. Honestly, all I could think of was the one slightly off -note in the second stanza and the low note that I barely hit. I didn’t matter that people were yelling and screaming my name, on their feet with praise. Nothing mattered but my own self-image. No one, no crowd, no amount of people in the world could give me back what was never created.

When I understood that, I gave up singing for a while and I gave up writing too. I gave up any part of my career that felt as if it were striving for attention. My prayer was one thing only: “God, how can I help the world today? In exchange for allowing myself to be used for your purpose, keep me safe from harm and sickness, clothed, and let me not have to want for anything. I’ll give my life in exchange for security—safety.” That was the pact I made with God.

From there, everyday has been an expression of trust. I wake up not knowing where my next dollar is going to come from. I wake up not knowing where I may need to go to help someone. I wake up some days with no direction at all. But the difference is, most days I’m completely at peace because I understand from whom my guidance comes.

No amount of money or advice can give you what the Unlimited Love and peace of God can give you in your heart by following your divine path. I’m not saying that I may never write another book or sing in a show or be on a sitcom or television drama. I haven’t walked down that road yet.

Am I afraid of that now? Absolutely not. I know that wherever God chooses to take me, I’m completely prepared mentally, spiritually, and technically.

You see, not only do I do my spiritual work, but I do my technical work daily. I’m prepared for almost anything. I read a lot. I listen to a lot of great advice from my wonderful friends. And I research what intrigues me. Because I know that God is in my heart creating questions. It is my duty to answer them and get more confident about what I do every day. I’m here to help people. But I don’t want to be a bad or disrespect my craft by doing less than average work on anything. I want to be the best that God has chosen for me to do. I want to be cutting edge awesome every day for Spirit God.

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Bo Sebastian is a Hypnotherapist and Life & Health Coach, available for private sessions to QUIT SMOKING, Lose Weight, New Lap-Band Hypnosis for Weight Loss, CHANGE YOUR MIND, CHANGE YOUR LIFE! at 615-400-2334 or www.bosebastian.com.

I am trying to spread the word about my blog and I need your help. Please let your friends know it exists, if it gives you hope and blesses you each day. If you are looking to enter the RSS or Atom Feed, you have to go to the home page of the blog to get there. Also, I write this Blog as a part of Finding Authentic You Ministries. If you would like to send an offering or a tithe, your donation would greatly be appreciated: 5001 Maywood Drive, Nashville, TN 37211.

And I would be greatly pleased for you to share anything that you read by clicking the share button in Facebook.com/bo.sebastian, or add it to your Twitter at BoSebastian; or LinkedIN at Bosebastian5@gmail.com; or find this blog home at www.FindingAuthenticYou.com. Any of my books can be found on Amazon or Barnes and Nobel, just by typing my name in the search header.